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In the end, Emily did not want to tell me how her husband was a big culprit in Sara’s rebellion because Emily felt hopeless that Ryan would ever change. Rather than being honest to me about the situation, she presented it as teen rebellion and wanted me to fix her daughter….
Emily said Ryan rarely encourages his daughter. Though their home is not overly negative or discouraging, it is not a home where active and intentional building up and encouragement takes place….
Then she hesitated, but finally said softly that her daddy rarely encouraged her and how she always felt he was displeased with her. She did clarify how many times it was not necessarily because of what he said, as much as it was about his quietness, distance, pre-occupation, and obvious affection for Michael….
The reason Sara rebelled was because it was her way of working through her struggle with God. She did not know how to have a relationship with God because the main authority figure in her life–her father–was broken….
Sara felt her dad’s displeasure and naturally assumed God’s displeasure. “If daddy does not like me, God must not like me either. There must be something wrong with me.” She believed God was angry with her. From her perspective, it was like being thrown in a room with an angry person, so Sara became angry too….
I have dealt with this situation also and it is has a great domino effect, not just on the family but on future generations. I am a Christian believer and I have seen my husband struggle to have a relationship with the Lord, this I feel being one of the big reasons. This in turn has caused a rebellion in all three of my children. I still have hope in the Lord that nothing is impossible with God. I am going on 27 years of marriage in March. To God be the Glory.
At what point do we mothers stop enabling this and insist on the fathers getting counseling? Why isn’t the church helping fathers and mothers with this problem?
i wonder about families like this 100 yrs ago. would the child go on to be dysfunctional in life but these families of origin were so rare that the child would be a rare bird herself? if not, what did ppl do back then? they certainly didnt get counseling. must be the parent(s) just prayed for guidance & hoped for a miracle of grace on the erring parent’s and child’s part.
Hey Guys – Thanks for posting only a blurb of my article on your site. I appreciate your integrity. (Plus, most folks don’t know how Google “penalizes” the content provider for posting the same content on multiple sites. So, thank you.)
Since you had several readers reading this article, I put it in an audio formate for you. It is here: https://soundcloud.com/rickthomas-net/when-education-becomes-deadly-to-a-childs-soul
I appreciate your passion for the LORD.